Maybe it’s new lingo on the playground but no one had ever called me “bossy” while doing my thing on the swing-set. And if they had, who gives a shit? I know I’m only speaking from personal experience but there were many times in my school days from 4th grade to 7th to 10th to college that I’ve been given a leadership opportunity and I went with it. I never feared being called bossy or having people make fun of me. Hell, I was already being teased for my weight, red hair, dumb last name, and Harry Potter glasses – one more word would have just added go-getting fuel to the fire.
I think we are dealing with an overly sensitive group of women rather than leaders here. True leaders aren’t going to give a flying fuck what anyone thinks of them and if they do than their parents need to reassess how they raise their daughters. It’s not new news that we live in a mans world.
I have a great sense of pride for the strides that the woman have made since the housewives generation in the early 20th century. The only way that we as women have even gotten this far is because we are bossy not because we crossed our legs when we curtsied. So why is bossy labeled such a bad word?
Eliminate bossy from our vocabulary and women won’t have anything to prove to people. They won’t have to prove that being a leader will get you places in life. And really, lets take a man in comparison: A lot of the boys and men that I have come across in the last 15 years that are leaders are very overbearing (ahem, another word for bossy) and can sometimes be royal douche-bags but they are successful. They aren’t successful on just a pretty face and a nice haircut.
“We call girls bossy on the playground,” Sandberg said. “We call them too aggressive or other B-words in the workplace. They’re bossy as little girls, and then they’re aggressive, political, shrill, too ambitious as women.”
This really is frustrating. Does she hear what she is saying? Newsflash: Men and boys are also called too aggressive on the playground when they push or punch someone. They are called assholes or dicks in the workplace when they lack sensitivity. They are called immature when they draw penis’ on their car windows.
I’m not trying to “stick up for” the man. I’m simply pointing out the idiocy of the “Bossy Ban.” Why are these leading women trying to ban words to make them feel better when they tried so damn hard to be treated equally?
“Leadership is not bullying and leadership is not aggression,” Sandberg said. “Leadership is the expectation that you can use your voice for good. That you can make the world a better place.”
So lets do just that. I was called fat, ugly, snotty, 4-eyes, and bossy among many other words over the last 24 years but I’m not going to petition to have those words banned because not only did they make me who I am today but they [those words and the people that said them] forced me to stand up for myself and to actually take a stand. The people that are going to call names will always be bullies regardless of word or no word. They will just tear you down in another forum. Get used to it. If we don’t, than we’re going to be raising a generation of pansies not leaders.
What’s your stance? Lets here it.